There are so many different things I have learned through the years. From the time I was a teen to the age I am now.
People are the product of their environment. People are what they eat. People are a reflection of their parents. Are these things true? Or are we the product of the many things we have read and the experience we have collected along the way?
Mary Jo Kreitzer, RN, PhD says,
- The environment can facilitate or discourage interactions among people (and the subsequent benefits of social support). For example, an inviting space with comfortable chairs and privacy can encourage a family to stay and visit with a patient.
- The environment can influence peoples’ behavior and motivation to act. For example, a dingy corridor filled with extra hospital equipment will invite staff to leave another item in the hall, whereas a clean corridor and adequate storage will encourage staff to take the time to put the item away.
- The environment can influence mood. For example, the results of several research studies reveal that rooms with bright light, both natural and artificial, can improve health outcomes such as depression, agitation, and sleep.
These noted behaviors are examples of who we are and how we react to certaion situations.
If that is the case and I was not exposed to this lifestyle, why then is there an incessant need to write about a subject I have only read about?
This was not my experience as a young man or nor have I seen it growing up.
Now there are theories that this is the result of my parents’ disciplinary policies. But I was not abused. I was not beaten daily. Now Mon was one to pick up whatever was nearby, but that was only in my younger years.
As I grew into my early teen years and got faster taller and stronger, obviously it stopped. But there were no paddles on the wall, no straps looking at me in the kitchen. There was no program, just discipline like every other kid on the block in the 80s. So why and why realizing it now that I am in my later years, after children, marriage and nearly retirement. I mean really?
So these are the questions rolling around in my head these says.
Jillian Keenan says this group is the only clan of people that use spanking as both punishment and reward. The debates rage on. The relationship between misogyny and hetero normativity. How many types of spanking are there? Punishment, punishment, good girl, erotic maintenance, power exchange, stress relief, and just for fun.
The opportunity to learn the dynamic from a professional dom was not mine to enjoy. All the doms I have ever met I have known only online. The dynamic was explained to me through the internet. I am still in the dark. I am friends with more subs than Doms, that I know of. I am still one of those guys that have come out to the people who read my blog and my wife, who is as vanilla as a jello pudding pop, a God love her. But sometimes I look at her ass and the conditions are so right, like today, I just want to wail on it so bad and watch it turn from pink to red.